"Are you growing?"

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I coach a lot of couples about how to avoid divorce court and stay married forever. Each relationship is unique with its own set of challenges, but there are many common denominators that couples find challenging.

Recently I was coaching a couple about the importance of doing the little but necessary things to keep their marriage vital and growing. We brainstormed a list of activities they could do—what she wanted for him to do and what he wanted for her to do.

When we finished the list, prioritized it, and decided where to start, we all signed off on it. Then the wife said, “Dr. Joey, it seems to me that marriage is like having a plant. You have to water it, fertilize it, and talk to it for it to grow.”

I thought that was a beautiful way to listen to life about marriage, finding a simple yet profound way of understanding life. And “water it, fertilize it, and talk to it for it to grow” is a great way not just to grow a marriage, but any relationship—with your parent, your child, your neighbor, your coworker, and even your God. So listen to life and grow a life, not just a living
today.

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